I just read a comment on someone’s Livejournal (which I won’t link to, because she might not want a bunch of Tumblr strangers showing up on her page all of a sudden)
saying “people should be taught as children to safeword [during sex] because it would prevent so much [molestation, such as I the commenter endured as a child]”
and I almost had a fucking brain aneurysm
because SAFE WORD?
The fucking SAFE WORD for when you are THREE (or THIRTEEN, or TWENTY-THREE, or THIRTY …) and someone is touching you in a bad way or fucking raping you
**** IS (or fucking should be) AS SIMPLE AS “NO”.****
YOU GODDAMN FUCKING COCKSUCKING BASTARDS!
i think “safeword” is the new “she was playing hard to get, she was embarrassed”. i mean that’s literally what it is, she was only saying no because of HOW MUCH she wanted it!!! (not that anyone believes someone saying that she’d said no unless they can pull this) and i hate it.
like with that comment, it’s like ‘oh, men have just moved the goalposts of consent. if I had known they wouldn’t have molested me. I wasn’t powerless, there is a way to win!’ – it’s really fucking sad
Right? It doesn’t matter how many times a child (or adult) rape victim “safe words.” The point of rape is that the rapists don’t care whether or not the victim “consents” or “wants it.”
It’s like these people really do not want to face the truth: that rape is not an accident, it is not a “misunderstanding”, it does not happen because little girls are just not taught to say “no” (because, while breaking down one’s boundaries is in fact a process — known as “grooming” — that people can use to justify that person’s abuse ad infinitum, a rapist really does not care whether or not someone says “no” at any point during this process).