Daily Archives: June 5th, 2009

22nd Carnival of Radical Feminists

Is up at Genderburg.

We get a mention, and there’s lots of cool stuff up.

Quote of the day: hate

Following on from this post, it seems some men think we’re getting all worked up over nothing. You see, the term ‘hate fuck’ isn’t about hating women, it’s only about ‘hating’ women, which isn’t a big deal at all (and anyway, some women like being abused). So I’d like to quote ‘lucywatchthesky’ who left this comment on the Daily Dose blog (can’t seem to link to it directly, it’s posted at 6.09pm on June 2).

Thank you for writing this, and thank you for being sensible enough to really explain what is wrong with this entire sentiment (because apparently for some it’s not as obvious). I despise the term “hate-fucking”; I hear it all the time at work and otherwise, and yes, it is VERY different from being counter-intuitively attracted to someone you’d otherwise despise. In the contexts I’ve heard it, when a woman is powerful and outspoken, and inspires resentment from men around her, it’s as if the only way they can tolerate to be around her is to think about “hate-fucking” her. In other words, if they can think about her as a sex object, then it makes it easier to deal with the reality that she is in fact more powerful than they.

This piece only highlights how cavalier some men are about their inherent privilege, and how they think nothing of using sex as a weapon against women. This is not edgy journalism; it’s hate, and it’s disgusting.