More and more billboards for adultcon are being put up around my neighborhood where families, schools and children are plus more on the fwys. I would appreciate help to get these taken down for starters. There is an adultcon thing going on at the LA convention center in the west hall B section on March 25, 26 and 27. On the Friday the 25, it starts at 4pm-10pm. On Saturday, the 26, it starts at 1-9pm. On Sunday, the 27, it is from 1pm-6pm. I am giving this information because I would like to protest at the location during the hours it is open. If others would like to join me that would be great. But back to the billboards. I want to see these taken down and having people help me complain to the billboard companies would a step in the right direction. I would greatly appreciate all and everyone’s help.
There are mainly two companies that I have found. One is Bulletin Displays. The president is Mark A. Kudler and his contact information is: NUMBER: (562) 470-6680 EXT.11 and his EMAIL is mark.k[at]bulletindisplays.com
The vice president is Robert Kudler and his contact is: NUMBER: (562) 470-6680 EXT.12
I also have the contact for the Media buyer director in case some would like to contact by this route too. The director of media buying is Debra Pelfrey. The contact for her is (562) 500-7090 and her EMAIL is debra.p[at]bulletindisplays.com
The second is CBS. Their general contact information is (415) 344-2000.
I am also giving the information to the LA convention center in case some would like to contact and question them for them having this exhibit. LA convention center contact information: NUMBER: (213) 741-1151 and the EMAIL is administration[at]lacclink.com
I would appreciate any help I can get. I am looking into protesting outside the convention center as well during their adultcon exhibit. I am looking into papers to hand out and just general verbal protest. If anyone is interested, feel free to contact me. Emily Anderson. Contact information: EMAIL: mnmjoy87[at]verizon.net.
Thank you all for your support and help.
Emily Joy Anderson
From Dear Mariella:
Wake up, be angry. You’re not the one behaving badly. Before I start a tirade about real relationships requiring multi-dimensional participants of flesh and blood not the one-dimensional fictions we create online, let’s talk about porn. A great triumph of spin has occurred since the 70s, when feisty feminists briefly succeeded in sending pornography to the top shelf or under the mattress. These days if you speak out against pornography you’re so, like, 20th century! I realise it’s not cool to frown on sexualised images of (mainly) women, but I really do struggle to see what they have to offer my sex apart from mild titillation. Don’t get me wrong: I’m all for being turned on. But forced to chose between my own fleeting pleasure and the insidious impact of hardcore pornography on global attitudes to my sisters and there’s no contest. In a world where one in five of us will be raped in our lifetime and sexual violence continues to be a weapon of aggression in war and peace, just saying no to anything that might contribute to the continuing objectification of women seems the most sensible option. Most porn isn’t made with us in mind anyway judging by the endless pumping, grinding scenes of copulation where severe cystitis rather than an orgasm are the most likely outcome for the female of the species!
So lets all look at a man! … Seriously though, I think it’s a good film, he’s silent and listening respectfully while a woman speaks (it’s not radical – talk of equality rather than liberation, but it’s aiming for a mainstream audience, one that’s more comfortable with the concept of ‘gender equality’ than with use of the ‘F word’).
Also for today, the Guardian has a list of 100 Inspiring Women, you won’t agree with all of them, but there are plenty to choose from.
Also, their Global Development blog covers life for women in many parts of the world (as new ‘development + gender’ posts are added, you will need to scroll down to find the International Women’s Day ones) EDIT: here’s a better link.
Gail Dines: I’m concerned about what it means to live in a society that is overwhelmed by images created by predatory capitalists whose job is to maximise profits. Pornography is the commodification of sexuality and the product is plasticised and lacks any individuality. My feeling is that you’re talking from a more personal perspective, and there are certainly ways in which some women can make pornography work for them. My issue is beyond you and me, and into a more political analysis of what it means to live in a society where women are systematically discriminated against, and then have a juggernaut called pornography shaping the way men think about us – the same men who go on to make laws and policy that impact on the lives of women.
Anna Arrowsmith: I used to be anti-pornography until I realised my anger was jealousy – I was envious of men having their sexuality catered for. I realised the best thing I could do was to work towards women learning their own sexual identity. I’m not just coming from a personal experience – I’ve been chair of the adult industry trade association in the UK. We don’t get well represented in the media, we’re a soft target, using moral panics to say we’re the devil, and that if you just get rid of pornography, amazingly women will get full equality.
GD: I understand being envious of men’s sexual freedom, but the bigger point is that men have too much economic and cultural power, and women making pornography is not going to change that. If we want equality, we will have to do it on the political and economic level, and making porn is a trivial response.
AA: The anti-porn stance encourages women to think of themselves as victims.
AA: You don’t allow women the individual choice to opt in.
GD: Of course individual women can be empowered – I’m extremely empowered in my life, but just because I, as a white, middle-class educated woman, am empowered does not mean we have women’s liberation. It means I have a duty to use my privilege to fight for women who are discriminated against.
AA: So do I, and that’s why I fight against people who argue against women in the sex industry. We get a lot of aggression from people like you and it’s important that empowered women like myself stand up for porn stars and say, please listen to them. If they say they are happy, please respect their autonomy.
GD: Women who work in the sex industry and promote this in the name of feminism are the scabs of the feminist movement. I think you are an apologist, and selling women out.
AA: I’m not an apologist. I’m here because women want sexuality to be represented. If you hand over all sexual imagery to men, you hand over that power. I’m not saying all pornography is positive to women, but the only way you are going to change that is from working with the images themselves.
GD: We know that most women leave the porn industry with barely the clothes on their backs, they do not leave with millions of dollars. This industry is based on poor women who have few economic choices. Pornography is promoted as a way to economic empowerment, and that’s a lie.
AA: I wouldn’t disagree that women have bad experiences after [leaving the porn industry], but that is because society has such a bad attitude towards people who work in the sex industry. That’s the attitude of the mainstream media and the culture we live in who don’t respect sex workers as equals.
GD: I would put the stigma on the users and the men who buy sex. I am for women thinking about images of sexuality, but it’s a joke if you think you are going to do it within this predatory capitalist industry. I went on your website and it looks like any other porno website – what are you doing that is different from what every other pornographer is doing?
AA: You haven’t seen my films. An important part of them is the development of character and plot, and the role women play in the film. Women have an opportunity now to express their sexuality. Anyone can get a webcam and go on the internet, it has turned into a massive cottage industry, and that is an incredibly democratic move.
GD: Anyone can get an allotment and grow their own food – but the reality is that the food industry is run by agrobusiness, and the porn industry is run by the mega porn businesses. With all due respect, you are not shaping male sexuality on a macro level.
AA: You insult us alternative porn makers. I’ve had a huge effect in the industry, in how women are perceived in films and how men now direct in the UK. I’ve also changed stylistically and creatively how porn films are made in the UK. You will see a lot more camera angles looking at the man [from a female point of view], and that is because I worked within the industry and I changed it. Women need a voice against women like you to stand up and say I’m not a victim. You need to talk to porn stars . . .
GD: Porn stars? Do you know how many “porn stars” there are? The vast majority of women I’ve talked to [in the industry] are not porn stars, they last three to five months, and leave with very little money. That’s the way people coming from your position misrepresent the lives of women in the industry. The vast majority do not become “stars”. Having more women in the industry is a cop-out.
AA: I can tell you that from watching pornography I have learned more about my own sexuality. It was my first instance of having an orgasm, and a lot of women learn that through pornography.
GD: This is not about you, this is about a huge industry that is having an enormous cultural impact. We have a right as a culture to define an authentic sexuality that grows out of people’s experiences, desires, sexual needs and wants. What we’ve got instead is a generic, formulaic sexuality that comes out of an industry. That’s what industries do. To think that you can work in an industry and somehow change it, that’s a naive view of how capitalism works.
In fact, I was able to summon a few recent examples to testify as to why we might not consider the feminist fight over quite yet.
3. The increasing number of male friends who think it’s OK to send me web links to “funny” things they have found on porn sites. I would prefer to pretend, at least to myself, at least in so far as it concerns my friends, that there is still some sense of shame attached to the seeking-and-viewing experience (or, if shame is already too much to hope for, then discretion, decorum or some vague intimation, before they press send, that someone somewhere might not yet be inured to the sight of women with their every orifice plugged with increasingly non-traditional articles).
There were some lively contributions from those making porn (“the problem is, you haven’t got any knackers. If you had, you’d understand”) and depressing comments from young women working in it (“You can argue we are objects, but it’s just what life is now”). But it was all very familiar from other programmes and, for all the explicit things Smith described, a bit of a yawn.
From the side-bar of the A Radical Profeminist blog.
“Dick-whipped” is a term I created quite recently (1 March 2010ECD it made its first public appearance) that seems to be missing from radical discourse generally. I need it to describe het men who are so afraid of being rejected and ostracized by other dominant het men, that they come out as antifeminist, as homophobic, as racist, as classist and pro-status quo. They use anti-queer, anti-woman, racist language and other behaviors to shore up their status and standing among other dick-whipped men. Dick-whipped men use terms like “p*ssy-whipped” to put down men who have the courage to break ranks with the delusional, terrified dick-whipped masses of misogynist men. Dick-whipped men want to be “a member” in good “standing” in the White Brotherhood more than anything else.