The s/m concept of “vanilla” sex is sex devoid of passion. They are saying that there can be no passion without unequal power. That feels very sad and lonely to me, and destructive. The linkage of passion to dominance/subordination is the prototype of the heterosexual image of male-female relationships, one which justifies pornography. Women are supposed to love being brutalized. This is also the prototypical justification of all relationships of oppression — that the subordinate one who is “different” enjoys the inferior position.
“The appropriation of BDSM imagery is problematic”
“you have a rape culture that started by borrowing from BDSM’s imagery without reading its rules.”
I cannot believe how ridiculously stupid this is. I cannot believe that post ended up on my dash without criticism.
You really do have to laugh at how ignorant tumblr-tots are (people who, like the above quoted by Pomeranian Privilege, very obviously have no real world experience, and get all their ‘knowledge’ from other know-nothing tumblr-tots).
Rape culture is not a fashion or a ‘scene’ or a sub-culture like goths or bronies, it’s a description of patriarchy, of the status quo, of which there is no outside to get to; it’s the air we have to breath in every day.
If someone can’t understand that much, they have no business commenting at all.