My donated used 15 yr old pellet stove, which is my ONLY source of heat for the winter (since I am without a steady liveable income, I am unable to afford to get my gas utility service restored and afford the monthly bills), died last night. They don’t even make replacement parts for it anymore and I don’t have $4K to buy a new one and have it installed.
It is 45 degrees in the *warmest* room in my house right now. I’m just lucky I my water pipes have not frozen and burst. My electric is old and not up to code (because I don’t have any way of coming up with $8K to pay for getting it fixed and brought up to code) so I cannot risk overloading the breaker box by going out and buying one more electric space-heater to plug in (I already have 3 of them plugged in and that’s pushing it).
I may not be online for awhile because it is all I can do to NOT die from being sick and cold and hungry, so I will be huddled under a pile of blankets and not able to be at my desk on the computer much at all.
QotD: “One very violent man said in his group session, “She stabs me in the heart with her words,” to justify the fact that he had stabbed his partner in the chest with a knife”
In their efforts to adopt victim status, my clients try to exaggerate their partners’ verbal power: “Sure, I can win a physical fight, but she is much better with her mouth than I am, so I’d say it balances out.” (One very violent man said in his group session, “She stabs me in the heart with her words,” to justify the fact that he had stabbed his partner in the chest with a knife.)
Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men