QotD, porn addict

PostSecret_porn addict

My boyfirend is addicted to internet porn. He promises he’ll stop but he never does. And every time I catch him at it I love him a little less.

From today’s PostSecret

4 responses

  1. but of course they had to use porn (or quasi-porn) to make it appealing.. pretty sure the main person who runs PostSecret is male

    – a man

  2. Look, if I only posted things that were ‘gold star’ radical feminism, I would be cutting out a whole range of women’s experiences.

    The woman who made that secret was expressing herself in the best way she knew how, I included it on this blog so that other women, women who may never have encountered radical feminism before, and may have found this blog through googling ‘my boyfriend is addicted to porn’ would see that they are not alone in their experiences.

    This is a radical feminist blog, but it is a resource for everybody.

    And I certainly don’t need you policing what I post, your ‘a man’ signature was amusing the first time, this time it’s just patronising.

  3. @ antiplondon, as somebody who has gravitated towards radical feminism sort of gradually, with layers of understanding peeling back along the way (and while I still don’t know if I would specifically qualify as a radical feminist, the analysis has been absolutely invaluable for me), I want to say that I love the way you run your blog and the fact that you try and make it so informative yet accessible.

    I have a lot of conversations about these sorts of issues with women who would probably never dream of describing themselves as radical feminists, yet seem to be starving for radical feminist analysis. The problem is that it has been so demonised and misrepresented, and also that it’s just so profoundly challenging to commonly held perceptions about the way the world works. But, even so, on their own level lots of women still ‘get it’. They know what goes on in their own lives, and of other women they’re close to, and they know about the way women are treated all over the planet. Their eyes light up when they’re allowed to start seeing it and connecting the dots. Radical feminism just names and points out the mechanisms which they already know they live with.

    I think it’s really important to find ways to bridge the gap in understanding for people (because, as stated earlier, it evolves over time for some of us). The long and the short of it is, I think that the people who require “gold star’ radical feminism aren’t necessarily the ones who most need this blog, because they already know about it. So I, for one, commend your less purist approach. 🙂

  4. Thank you MLM, I really appreciate your comment!

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