… [O]ne participant in Phillips’s study does explicitly reflect, “There are times when women can’t control the shit that men do to them. I mean, come on, men are really the ones with all the real power. But I figure, as long as I’m already going to get screwed, at least maybe I can set the terms of the abuse or humiliation” (149). While openly acknowledging that her agency is defined by male interests, she assumes this situation to be inevitable rather than open to transformation. It follows that her experience precludes the label “victimization” or “rape”: the notion of victimization is unintelligible given that she experiences her subordination as agency – an agency defined by negotiating the terms of her subordination.
Toward a Phenomenology of Sex-Right: Reviving Radical Feminist Theory of Compulsory Heterosexuality, by Kathy Miriam