Monthly Archives: February, 2015

QotD: “if you’re a male ‘feminist’ have you tried literally not talking to women about misogyny and leaving us alone?”

like if you’re a male ‘feminist’ have you tried literally not talking to women about misogyny and leaving us alone? have you tried to talk to men at all about how they are misogynists? have you tried getting the men in your life to change? every second you waste talking about feminism to women is time you could have spent getting men to stop being misogynists, not to mention you are wasting our time by making everything about you. i literally do not care about anything you have to say, shut up, listen, then go talk to your male peers and leave us all the hell alone.

Pomeranian Privilege

QotD: “The rest are way too uppity to be acceptable to men”

It kind of pisses me off that “feminism” in itself means pro-sex, pro-porn, pro-kink, pro-gender, liberal, straight, white; “pro-choice”.

And as soon as your feminism is different, you’re not just a feminist. You’re a radical feminist or a black feminist or a lesbian feminist or an abolitionist.

Why do they get the label “feminist” ? Why is their feminism considered the purest one?

It is the only one that is patriarchy approved. The rest are way too uppity to be acceptable to men.

Dameauxchats and The Bewilderness

Categories Overhaul

I have decided to undertake a massive overhaul of the categories used by this blog; with over one thousand posts from six-plus years of blogging, it has become unwieldy.

My aim is to have more categories, with fewer posts in them (although some, like ‘quote of the day’, which is a catch-all for anything not written by me, and anything that doesn’t fall into any other category, will remain unwieldy).

Some categories will merely be re-named, others will be merged; some, for example ‘violence against women’ and ‘objectification/comodification’, are so broad, they cover most of the blog and are therefore not useful. Other categories will become more exacting; for example, ‘Radical Feminism’ will be for posts specifically about radical feminist theory, politics, and activism, not just anything I think is good from a radical feminist point-of-view.

My aim is to create a system that allows readers to easily find out what I have written on a subject (and therefore avoid wasting my time and embarrassing themselves with stupid, lazy questions).

The only really big change is the loss of the category ‘pro-sex anti-porn’; I took it down as the tag-line of the blog quite a while ago, as I thought that, while it worked well as a slogan for protesting outside the Playboy Store on Oxford Street, it was not nuanced enough for what I want to do with this blog. Since I have had some shit-for-brains dudebro tell me that ‘pro-sex anti-porn’ means I “should absolutely be cheering for heterosexuality” I know that my decision was the right one.

It’s going to take a while, and things will be a mess in the mean time. Here is a screen-cap of the current categories, in case anyone wants to make a comparison:

Categories 01

Categories 02

‘Cause it’s all about respecting boundaries, right?

Search Engine Term 26Feb15

porn ignoring safe word

(another search engine term someone used to find this blog)

“New law offers protection to abused Native American women”

Lise Brunner_White Earth Ojibwe Nation

In the “U.S.” last year, Congress approved a law — promoted by the Obama administration — that for the first time will allow Indian tribes to prosecute certain crimes of male violence committed by non-Indians in Indian country. The Justice Department on Thursday announced it had chosen three tribes for a pilot project to assert the new authority.

While the law has been praised by tribal leaders, native women and the administration as a significant first step, it still falls short of protecting all Indian women from the epidemic of violence they face on tribal lands.

The new authority, which will not go into effect for most of the country’s 566 federally recognized Indian tribes until March 2015, covers domestic violence committed by non-Indian husbands and boyfriends, but it does not cover sexual assault or rape committed by non-Indians who are “strangers” to their victims. It also does not extend to native women in Alaska.

Ojibwe member Lisa Brunner (Program Specialist for the National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center) is out to change this. Read more here: [New law offers protection to abused Native American women]

The way that women are treated and the way that the land is treated are interconnected, and enmeshed.


Deep Green Resistance

(Found via (ex)Gynocraticgrrl)

QotD: “For a woman to masturbate to, or enact, the rape and torture of women & girls she must disassociate from the one being hurt, thereby disassociating from any part of herself that is, has been, or could be victimized”

For a woman to masturbate to, or enact, the rape and torture of women & girls she must disassociate from the one being hurt, thereby disassociating from any part of herself that is, has been, or could be victimized. Finding pleasure in another woman’s pain is a way to not feel one’s own vulnerability or hurt and to do that a woman must get over on other victimized women. The abuse is compounded when a lesbian gets off on a woman being degraded as a lesbian. Both are disassociation from the self as woman and as lesbian in an attempt to identify with not women/lesbians and with men. This is no new, radical sex order. It’s just women abusing women.

The men in the pornography and prostitution industry would like nothing better than for women to use pornography, identify with the sexist and racist sexuality of pornography, and orgasm to the sexual humiliation of women. Celebrating or accepting the sexual degradation of women and girls in pornography and prostitution is connected to what happens in the ‘rest of the world.’ It is especially harmful when lesbians get off on sexual torture because they are (at least) twice oppressed: as women and as lesbians. In a world where 1 out of 3 girls are sexually abused before they turn 18; and lesbians are targeted for hate crimes; and lesbians live with disabilities, racism and poverty; and lesbian women and girls are used in pornography, prostitution & battered in relationships; violence against lesbians is not a fantasy. Resistance is crucial to the survival of lesbians, and lesbian pornography negates lesbian existence.

Stark, C., 2005 “Girls to boyz: Sex Radical Women promoting prostitution, pornography and sadomasochism” in Not for Sale: Feminists Resisting Prostitution and Pornography

Found at (ex)Gynocraticgrrl

QotD: “Making women seem anti-sex and joyless if we want the right to be sexual without being humiliated or hurt, and making men seem wimpy and undersexed if they prefer cooperation to domination, is clearly the tactic of choice for isolating anybody who tries to separate sexuality from violence and domination”

Making women seem anti-sex and joyless if we want the right to be sexual without being humiliated or hurt, and making men seem wimpy and undersexed if they prefer cooperation to domination, is clearly the tactic of choice for isolating anybody who tries to separate sexuality from violence and domination — which is a challenge to male dominance at its heart.

Gloria Steinem, Preface of “Outrageous Acts and Everyday Rebellions” (2nd ed., 1995)

Found at (ex)Gynocraticgrrl

Wow, BDSM sounds so healthy!

I play with bdsm, bondage being my main interest and not that interested in impact play. I have to disagree with your statement. It looks like youre ignorant about bdsm. Subs dont always like whats happening to them. But thats half the point. Theyve chosen to give control over to someone else(but not really. At any moment anyone involved can stop the scene). I was with a dom twice to sate my curiosity. She beat the shit out of my. Whipped me with a dozen different weapons(as i prefer to call them), bruised me, left me shivering and begging her to stop. “All you have to do is say the word”. But i didnt. I refused. And i hated every minute of it. But for those few hours i was her sub and was there to please her. Thats the idea anyway. Would i go back? Not for that kind of scene. So no, subs arent always enjoying themselves. But it challenges you to persevere.

You signed up for sex you didn’t enjoy and didn’t want, that you point blank say you /hated/, and you’re still trying to defend it by saying that’s what’s supposed to happen and a sub doesn’t need to enjoy themselves.

Tell me again how healthy this is. Go on.

“So no, subs arent always enjoying themselves. But it challenges you to persevere.”

Running a marathon challenges you to persevere. Tolerating a beating, or assault, isn’t perseverance, it’s lunacy and self-hatred.

Edited extract from conversation at Appropriately Inappropriate

QotD: “If I saw you in the street, I would slit your throat. Men are not monsters”

men are not monsters

You are absolutely vile. I absolutely despise you, and if I saw you in the street, I would slit your throat. Men are not monsters. The actions of few shouldn’t reflect on the entire gender. Just like bastards like you don’t make all women sexist, disgusting wastes of space.

From Appropriately Inappropriate

QotD: “I wish all terrible sexual fantasies came with such foolproof natural consequences”

So a while ago a saw an outraged series of posts signal boosting about the existence of a forum where people fantasized about having sex with alligators. And the post made the very valid point that the it is immoral and awful and gross and what the fuck is wrong with people? However, I think about this occasionally and find myself unable to work up much outrage because surely, surely, any one who actually tries to have sex with an alligator is going to get exactly what they deserve, right? I wish all terrible sexual fantasies came with such foolproof natural consequences.

Gales of November