QotD: “The power of pornography, however, extends not only to sexuality, but also to gender relations”

The power of pornography, however, extends not only to sexuality, but also to gender relations. Professor Grimm called this the contrast between the “bitch” and the “cool dude”. And it is not an invention of our current porn discussion. We have known this for some twenty years: our society is increasingly running out of fathers. And by “fathers” I do not mean biological fathers, but paternal role models. In practice, only the media perform the task of showing boys how to behave in their environment – especially towards women. However strange this may appear at first sight: pornography, with its few scripts, displays a very clear, very simply structured, and thus for children and young people (and unfortunately even for some adults), very attractive male image. For the man is the one who always has control, who knows what it’s all about, who tells the women how they have to behave. Of course I cannot now dwell on this huge subject of “fatherless society”, but we should keep this in mind: pornography would be much less powerful for our conceptions of the world if we had more male role models in society.

Professor Jakob Pastötter, Pornography and Power

One response

  1. I’m doubtful with the conclusive part. “Positive male role models in society”, who would offer an equivalently “clear structured and attractive” male image, as much attractive than the one displayed in pornography ? Wishful thinking. A masculine behavior that wouldn’t be understandable in “very few scripts” would be doomed to fail, especially with the competition it has in pornography. That’s actually what is happening. Male role models now exists in society, but they’re not deemed satisfying, because the scripts are regarded as more complicated, it doesn’t bring as much satisfaction than the “instant boner” feeling does. It’s difficult to beat the adrenaline and testosterone surges a man can experience with sex or dangerous situations. All other role model would be looked at as boring and emasculating, I’m afraid it would.
    Being a good father in our society, suppose that a man is ready to change the scripts a little bit, and does not rely on the good old “I’m the authority because I’m a man” or “I won’t do any cleaning because I’m a man”. It is difficult, as motherhood is difficult, but men have the “choice”, and some of them just don’t feel that much attached to their kids, that’s why some men just fly away from the “boring” responsabilities that come with children.
    And trully, if a man is immature and frustrated, it’s better that he goes away, than him relying on the primitive “male role model”, and be a father who just repeat in his very family what the traditional society was telling him about his paternal duties (with its “few scripts”, easily understandable : being authoritative, sexist, cold). The problem goes far deeper than society increasingly running out of father, because pornography is attractive to all males, young or adult. If a father enjoy watching pornography (and a lot of them do), he is in no position to offer a viable alternative. We had a world with “male role models” who were in control, who knew “what it’s all about” (or had to do “as if”) , at least in their family, and while it may have been a positive male image for young boys, women and young girls were the ones suffering from being told in their own family what were their places, were beaten or abused or be called whore by their own father, all this in the “secrecy” of the familial sphere (and with the benediction of the society).

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