QotD: “For a woman to masturbate to, or enact, the rape and torture of women & girls she must disassociate from the one being hurt, thereby disassociating from any part of herself that is, has been, or could be victimized”

For a woman to masturbate to, or enact, the rape and torture of women & girls she must disassociate from the one being hurt, thereby disassociating from any part of herself that is, has been, or could be victimized. Finding pleasure in another woman’s pain is a way to not feel one’s own vulnerability or hurt and to do that a woman must get over on other victimized women. The abuse is compounded when a lesbian gets off on a woman being degraded as a lesbian. Both are disassociation from the self as woman and as lesbian in an attempt to identify with not women/lesbians and with men. This is no new, radical sex order. It’s just women abusing women.

The men in the pornography and prostitution industry would like nothing better than for women to use pornography, identify with the sexist and racist sexuality of pornography, and orgasm to the sexual humiliation of women. Celebrating or accepting the sexual degradation of women and girls in pornography and prostitution is connected to what happens in the ‘rest of the world.’ It is especially harmful when lesbians get off on sexual torture because they are (at least) twice oppressed: as women and as lesbians. In a world where 1 out of 3 girls are sexually abused before they turn 18; and lesbians are targeted for hate crimes; and lesbians live with disabilities, racism and poverty; and lesbian women and girls are used in pornography, prostitution & battered in relationships; violence against lesbians is not a fantasy. Resistance is crucial to the survival of lesbians, and lesbian pornography negates lesbian existence.

Stark, C., 2005 “Girls to boyz: Sex Radical Women promoting prostitution, pornography and sadomasochism” in Not for Sale: Feminists Resisting Prostitution and Pornography

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