QotD: “It’s not about offering sexual activities for remuneration, but offering a driving lesson”

Driver’s ed teachers in Holland can request payment in two forms. The first, as you might expect, is in the traditional form of money. The second, you might be surprised to learn, is in the form of sex. Both are equally legal, two cabinet ministers recently opined, although the latter might be considered “undesirable.”

According to the UK’s Telegraph newspaper, Dutch Transport Minister Melanie Schultz van Haegen and Justice Minister Ard van der Steur, in response to a request for clarification on the issue, indicated that the deal only works in one direction. That is, driving instructors can offer lessons for sex, but students can’t propose sex for driving lessons. All consenting parties must be 18 years of age. The two ministers wrote in a letter to the country’s Parliament:

It’s not about offering sexual activities for remuneration, but offering a driving lesson. It is important that the initiative lies with the driving instructor, and focuses on offering a driving lesson, with the payment provided in sexual acts. When a sexual act offered in lieu of financial payment, that is prostitution.

The practice is referred to as “a ride for a ride” in slang. The Telegraph reports that Internet searches about sex as payment for driving lessons have been steadily climbing in number.

Prostitution is legal in Holland, and the country is generally known to have fairly open attitudes about sex. USA Today cites a Dutch News article noting that the ministers’ statement “will be a shot in the arm for the small legion of (mostly male) computer technicians, handymen, and driving instructors who offer their services online in exchange for personal services.”

If things weren’t already hopping on Amsterdam’s Craigslist, they’re likely to now more than ever.

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(found via Feminist Current)

Thanks Holland now women and teenage girls have to worry about being propositioned for sex by their driving instructors.

They said porn of this topic is rising, I wonder why. This is so sad to me.

Pornography is encouraging rape. Now Dutch women have to worry that if they want to learn how to drive they’ll to take precautions so they aren’t raped by their driving instructors. Now sexually predatory driving instructors have more leverage and a legal defense.

This is so saddening. Dutch people aren’t allowed to teach each other how to drive, you must learn with a certified instructor, and you are not allowed to drive without him/her until you receive your license.

In the Netherlands it’s quite common that your middle- or high class parents will give you the gift of driving lessons on your 18th birthday (probably your 17th birthday now, the legal age to start driving recently changed). Working class children who didn’t start their lessons at their birthday (because certified instructors are very expensive), were made fun of and often treated like they were weird, poor, pathetic, etc. I’m scared that this law will push young women over the edge to accept sexual abuse to get by, especially poor students.

It also makes me think of when my mother started her driving lessons. She was too poor when she was young, so she started once she had a more stable income. I was already born and about 10 years old. Every week when the instructor picked her up, my dad and I would stand on the balcony and wave her goodbye and good luck. The instructors waved back alongside her. Yet, she had to change instructor 2 or 3 times because they were pushing her to perform sexual acts. There were no female instructors in our area. Her anxiety grew so much and it took her years before she achieved her license.

This was almost 15 years ago, but I doubt the situation has changed a lot. Now these kind of instructors are given all the tools they need.

Like how the fuck does this even make sense. What else are they gonna let rapists start pressuring poor women for sex for? Oh, you need food? Clothes? Pads? An education? Well I think I’ve got a “need” too…”

The sex industry lobbyists have been trying to normalise ‘sex work‘ for decades. They have already been trying to coerce women so they can get an education (a degree) which will be worthless if they are known to have been prostituted which leaves them with a harder chance of steady employment and will push them back into prostitution.

taking “sex” (rape) as a form of payment if a woman cannot afford to pay for things she needs is violence against women. poor women’s bodies are literally being made in to a form of currency.

Celtyradfem, Soundofsilence7, No-Amanda, Pearlinprocess, and Pomeranian Privilege

4 responses

  1. This part caught my attention:

    USA Today cites a Dutch News article noting that the ministers’ statement “will be a shot in the arm for the small legion of (mostly male) computer technicians, handymen, and driving instructors who offer their services online in exchange for personal services.”

    It is my belief that men “consume” women through rape (and sexual “relations,” in general) as if we are food – we’re like high quality protein before a good work out. We are some kind of energy source to them, similar to plugging a cord into an electrical socket. The language in this paragraph strongly suggests this idea: Raping women in lieu of monetary payment is going to be a real boost somehow. It is going to have a sudden, beneficial effect on these men who have been somehow lacking it previously.

    If they can just go pay to rape women on the street legally there, then why would that not be a similar “shot in the arm?”

    It’s very strange language. I think this is one of those moments when men are really telling us something about themselves we should be extra attention to.

  2. Reblogged this on Stop Trans Chauvinism.

  3. Men enjoy fucking women when they know the woman has no choice. Women’s poverty is as intrinsic a part of patriarchy as poverty is an intrinsic part of capitalism.

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