Then there was abuse online. I’d never heard the word “sket” – teen slang for a slut – before I met these teenagers. Or of online “sket-sites” – pages created on Facebook where a girl’s sexual deeds are posted, and boys invited to add their comments. Sometimes a boy makes the site, sometimes another (perhaps jealous) girl. The idea is to humiliate. And it works. Intimate pictures, intimate details of a teenager’s life, posted for all to see, the girl labelled a “sket” or “ho” – I found this deeply upsetting. Weren’t they shocked too? They shrugged. It’s normal. And I heard that response again and again. Wrong, yes, but normal too. It was said of boys who take photos of girls during sex, of teens learning “sex moves” from porn, of the young man who shares his “girlfriend” with his mates, so they’re not “left out” – something adults might call gang rape. Wrong, but normal.
From Teenagers suffer the kicks of abusive relationships.
EDIT: The BBC Radio 4 Programme described above is still available to listen again to here for the next few days.
In Teenage Kicks, Aasmah Mir explores the sexual pressures faced by teens in Britain today. At a time when young people are more exposed than ever to extreme sexual and violent behaviour, we hear about the work being done on the front-line, with kids who are growing up too fast. We hear from teenage boys on why sharing girls together is not just ‘gang rape’, but a way of life. And we’ll find out how gang culture is pervading teens’ ideas of how relationships work. Aasmah looks into the factors that mean sexual violence is on the increase in the early teens. And meets youth workers at the sharp end. How do you teach a 14 year old, who’s used his mobile phone to film a girl performing a sexual act, about the complex nature of ‘consent’? What if his frames of reference come from pornography on mobile phones at school? Teenage Kicks asks those working with youth, and teenagers themselves – what can be done to help young people have healthy relationships?
Anti-Porn Feminists 
Am I surprised at the normalisation of male dehumanisation of women and girls? Not at all because this is what happens when we live in a male supremacist society, which promotes male hatred and male contempt of women and girls as ‘humorous’ or ‘funny.’ Note too the victims of this vindictive and increasingly sadistic sexual violence are always female and the majority of the perpetrators are male. Yes I know some teenage girls endorse male hatred of women and girls but given popular culture is obsessed with dehumanising young women, teenage girls and even female babies we should not be surprised when girls imitate what they see. Plus of course many girls see it as the only option – either fit in with the male hatred of females or else be obstracised by their peers who see nothing wrong in subjecting teen girls to sexual humiliation and sadistic sexual violence. After all popular culture constantly promotes the misogynistic lie that women and girls are all males’ disposable sexual service stations.
Then too there is no analysis or criticism allowed concerning how blatantly misogynistic our society and popular culture has become. Criticism of male attitudes towards women is dismissed as ‘feminists just hate men and don’t you dare to challenge males on their attitudes etc.’ So because malestream media promotes one message only and that is males are entitled to treat women and girls as disposable sexual service stations, this means boys growing up believe it is acceptable behaviour. This is why increasing numbers of teen boys are engaging in group raping a girl, filming their sexual crimes and then boasting about their pseudo sexual exploits to their male peers.
But of course media supposedly does not influence viewers’ behaviour or attitudes which is why advertising is rife because this too never influences anyone into buying a product they do not need!
But the bottom line is since women and girls aren’t human this means male violence against women doesn’t exist because no human was harmed!