QotD: “The sex industry lobby scares the fuck out of me”

legalised lies

The sex industry lobby scares the fuck out of me, not because of their “exposing abolitionists for who they really are” or “debunking the lies of (fake) ex-prostitutes who want to ban sex work”. Those things are as sincere as neo-nazi’s “exposing the zionist conspiracy that has enslaved the world”. No, they scare me because of their greater resources and the fact that they are not held back by the truth. They can lie all they want, because there is nobody trying to fiercely “debunk” their own personal stories.

All we want as survivors is to be listened to and to see that something effective is being done against the very thing that affected our lives so negatively. That’s it. Our goal is not “to prohibit sex work, because fuck ‘em dirty whores”, many advocate for the Nordic model (wich is NOT prohibition!) because they believe it reduces the influx into the industry. That’s prevention instead of damage control. We think prostitution is harmful, because we were harmed by it. And if that can traumatise us, it can traumatise other girls and women (and boys).

I understand that there are actual women in prostitution and porn who don’t mind, especially in elite sections of the industry. And i also understand that we both have people on our “side” whoms toxic breath breathes down our necks. You have the facilitators, pimps and pornographers and we have the religious nuts.

Some survivors have black holes in their memories due to trauma or drug abuse, many speak up after more than a decade of silence. Painting them as liars and delusional fiction writers to protect your economical interests is mean, we’re not speaking up for fun either.
You say it’s about safety, i keep that in mind, but what about our safety? And most important: what about the safety of all the girls who newly enter the industry against their free, independent will?

Perhaps it’s not us saying “fuck ‘em dirty whores”, but the people you consider your “pro-sex” allies.

From Legalised Lies, “A survivor of prostitution speaking up against the sex industry lobby”

4 responses

  1. That’s what kills me… not only that the support for prostitution is so blatantly self-interested, but that the opposition mostly comes from misogynistic right-wing nuts. Apart from Gail Dines’ tireless work and some Internet bloggers, it seems like we’re alone.

  2. I don’t think it’s quite that bad, the law changes in France, Ireland and Canada suggest there is some hope, although, as you, and LL say, there are the religious/right-wing nuts.

    Though of course, when a country legalises/decriminalises/libralises its prostitution laws, the religious/political leanings of the government that did it stops being important.

  3. More from Legalised Lies:

    Yay! See! This is why i advocate for exit programs and social services (as part of the Nordic model or not, either way) for those in the sex industry.
    I currently am seeing a career coach and we’re looking into a plan for me to finally get an education to move away from my risky socio-economic class. 😀 I have been terrified of having to return to prostitution these last months and that fear is slowely subdueing now.

    University here i come (hopefully)!

    http://legalisedlies.tumblr.com/post/107847802994/a-short-personal-post

    This isn’t industry-related though, as you know: the illegal sector still is criminalised here, so i have to be careful to talk about it to officials. My career coach is housed in the same building as my psychologist is, so that’s where it came from: i just lucked out for a change.

    I agree with you of course: support NGO’s here are either Christian (“repent and choose to leave” while leaving isn’t a matter of choice) or lobby-based (“exit programs? No we just teach sexworkers to be better sexworkers”). One of the latter i know of is even “against the criminalisation of youth sexwork” wich is fucked up and code for “we’re totally okay with child molestation”.

    Support services are more than a free HIV-test and help with the language barrier between officials and prostitutes. The focus should be on a secular, woman- and LGBT friendly initiative to improve their lives how they want so they can exit the industry.
    And when it comes to minors: sorry, but if the parents won’t help, the state has to. A child that age should be in school and not sleep with older men to survive, period.

    http://legalisedlies.tumblr.com/post/107883821144/a-short-personal-post

  4. Looks like I spoke too soon re. France:

    “Neither prostitution nor paying for sex are illegal in France and the French Sénat – the upper house of parliament – rejected a government attempt to criminalise prostitutes’ clients last September.”

    http://www.theguardian.com/world/2015/jan/31/dominique-strauss-kahn-french-sex-trial

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